You ever noticed how different people bring out different things in you? Growing up my brother told me he could tell who I was on the phone with based on the topic of my conversation. Different moments and people require you to tap into different sections of your personality. I pride myself on my versatility and ability to read the room. I think these are cool skills to have yet I’m my best when I have the freedom to fully be myself therefore I’m curating my life accordingly.🦋 I have zero interest in matching energies or figuring out how to treat someone today cause they’ve switched up. I feel like if I gotta move different let me move out the way.

I’m not talking about strategy, cause again we should read the room, I’m talking about when we gotta take up less space to accommodate misplaced insecurities, the elephants in the room or confusion. Life’s too short for all that. If you get the privilege to be around me it’s because we’re good. I call it a privilege because we all should consider ourselves that. I’m a super dope experience and if I have to spend time in my head second guessing my actions I’m not giving the world what God put me here to give and that’s no longer bueno for me. The way I’m doing this is paying close attention to my emotions. Where am I safe? I kept making a joke that I was giving out boundaries for Christmas but I legit did. I assessed when and how I can fully show up for people and on what capacity. I’m a giver and I love it! I don’t want to have to calculate my pouring into you so I’m spending more time with fellow givers and my cup is staying full by default. Some people I can’t talk on the phone with cause they’ll drain me or lie, and man I do not like lying so it just destroys my energy level so I stopped accepting their calls.

I put their ring tone to silent. I’ll text or pull up but I’ve downgraded our interactions to brief ones. I love them so I’m not throwing them away but currently micro doses are best. I didn’t even share this info with them. It ain’t something I need them to understand this is all about me. Not sharing also allows me the freedom to edit the game plan as frequently as I want if I want. So far it’s peaceful and I like it so I think I’m on to something. Please note this is all centered in love. This is not about being mean and putting people in their place this is about sanity and order, about making our relationships work through proper connection not disconnection.💛

How are you gonna curate the best life for yourself? We’re already in the 2nd week of this brand new year. What can you do to stay safe and keep your own cup full? I pray your answers give you room to bloom cause we’re not here to survive y’all. Thriving is the goal. #SincerelyJam 💋🤟🏾🎈