Simple Things
I thoroughly enjoy an exchange of views and opinions! Don’t you??? The learning that stems from it is fascinating. Recently I’ve engaged in various adult conversations. I’m talking healthy, enlightening and developmental without a specific purpose but rich. About all sorts of things with all sorts of people. I really enjoy the ones full of honesty. Nothing sugar coated yet gentle and respectful of each other’s perspectives. From these conversations I’ve become a better listener. It’s funny because the more I listen the less I want to talk. Developing better skills for listening to understand instead of listening to reply. I ask questions and share thoughts. I’ve learned so much from these exchanges.
See I grew up numb. As the difficulty of a situation increased my sensitivity lowered. I was nonchalant often and downright callous at times. I’d force myself to suck it up and press on because a conversation was not an easy option if an option at all. I survived by not expecting anything from others or myself. Now I share with people my expectations. With that type of honesty, I’ve impressed myself. I noticed my honesty has influenced others to share their honesty because respect is given, and this creates a safe space. It’s rejuvenating to experience the world giving us what we give it! If we have unfulfilled needs it is because we have failed to disclose some things. Our desires are our responsibility to go after. Like myself you might have to learn how because life taught us that being vulnerable isn’t required. For authentic living it’s something you must try. Say the things you should say. Not the mean and rude things to show how loud you can roar but the things that need to be said. “You offended me.” “I don’t like what I witness you do.” “That makes me uncomfortable.” Create a healthy space. Ask the hard questions and require the honesty within yourself. Share that. Share who you are, have boundaries, feel and require things. Be real, be true, be Human. Life is hard so enjoy the simple things.... #SincerelyJamara