So... I went on a date with a man 10 years older than me. No big deal 30’s and 40’s, right. I try not to judge or put people in boxes. I’m working on just being open to meeting new people and getting to know more. One of my friends calls it my research & development stage because I learn something with each interaction. Kinda like Carrie Bradshaw, oh my goodness, I’m like No Sex and the City, LOL, a variety of emotions, writing and I have a shoe fetish. Dear God I pray I don’t have to wait 10 years for Mr. Big, ANY WHO... I went on a 2nd date and dude was aggressive. I love an alpha male but this was heavier, too heavy for me so I asked a few question to get clarity. Please note, this man was telling me he wants to take me on a mini trip, I should be his girl and tried to hold hands; moving extremely fast and I was doing my best not to be rude.

During lunch I asked where his children live. This man says with us. US. I laughed extremely loud, so loud that other people looked at our table and I did not stop. While laughing I asked, “Us as in you and your children’s mother?” He said, “yes, but I don’t know why that’s so funny!”. I’m thinking you wouldn’t but he continues to explain he would share this information if we became serious and he would NEVER lie about it. Um... He didn’t think that would play a part in me determining if I wanted to become serious but he was fake planning our future and his reasoning wasn’t even for the kids. We finished lunch and the conversation ended with me sharing a few of the reasons why we wouldn’t work. Dude still wanted to be friends... Friends!?! He and I clearly have different definitions for the term. Now a previous version of myself would of kept him near for food and giggles but I can feed myself plus my real friends are hilarious so No Thank You.  Can y’all see the various problems that could derive from that “friendship”?!? Plus nothing about that would benefit my end goal or any goal nor did it deserve any of my energy. Although this was a clear case some incidents creep up on us and we allow it to occupy our time when it doesn’t feed a single thing into our soul. Instead of turning us on it turns us off and we allow or fire inside to die. Let’s spend our time with people and doing things that ignite us. The world needs our lights to be a brighter place.